JEALOUSY

We often encounter jealousy in the context of romantic relationships: A boyfriend who forbids his girlfriend from talking to other men, for instance. Or a person, who can’t stand to see one of her last relationships post pictures with a new partner on Facebook. But jealousy can occur in almost all types of human relationship — from siblings competing for parental attention to coworkers trying to impress a respected superior.

Although jealousy is a painful emotional experience, evolutionary psychologists regard it not as an emotion to be suppressed but as one to heed and to pay attention to — as a sign or a wake-up call, that a valued relationship is in danger and that steps need to be taken to regain the affection of the respective person. As a result, jealousy is seen as a necessary emotion, because it preserves social bonds and motivates people to engage in behaviors that maintain important relationships.

Nevertheless, sometimes it can be too much to bear. Research has identified many root causes of extreme jealousy, including insecurity and low self-esteem, high neuroticism, and feeling possessive of others, particularly romantic partners. Fear of abandonment is a key motivator. 

All this factors can be worked on with hypnosis. Especially the fear of abandonment and the respective attachment traumas can be addressed with hypo-analytic techniques.